Love is a very beautiful and magical feeling. The meaning of love can be different for every individual. Love is very powerful, as, in love, we can go to the ends of the earth in order to make our loved ones happy. But what is as powerful as love? Pain from heartbreaks. Maybe you had a very bad heartbreak, or you’re a one-sided lover. Or maybe this person does not respect you and is engaged in several negative behaviors such as abuse, torture, etc. Whatever the reason might be. All these things make us leave our partner.
But, what is more difficult than leaving someone is to stop loving them. We’ve often read in poetries also, “A person might leave but love stays.” It is a very difficult task to stop loving somebody. It can be mentally as well as emotionally taxing to stay without your partner, let go of memories, etc. But it is very important to let go of your own sanity. Or else you might end up suffering from several mental disorders such as anxiety, depression, etc.
If you are trying to stop loving your partner but somehow you cannot. Here are the 4 tips on how to stop loving someone:
Accept the truth
We are the strongest when are aware of our failures and insecurities and embrace them. When it comes to relationships, it becomes a bit hard to accept that you are no longer associated with or partner. Unloving your partner becomes more difficult when you deny accepting the fact that the relationship has ended and your partner is no longer with you. But, in order to unlove somebody, it is very important to be honest with yourself, no matter how much time it takes. As love is a nuanced emotion, an individual may take as much time as they want to accept this fact. But accepting the truth and thinking logically is the only way to get over your lover and unlove them. So, take your time and accept the fact that you had a failed relationship and move on.
Be distant
In order to forget somebody, it is very important to become distant from them. As if we will stay close to this person, we will still worry, get jealous and even try to win them back. So, in order to move on and be unloved, it is very important to make yourself distant as the distance will allow you to stay uninvolved and unaware of the life of your ex-lover and it might even help you to erase a few memories. And no matter what, if we stay close to our ex, we will always want to win them back no matter what. So, remove your ex from all of the social media sites as higher are the chances you might stalk them and even get jealous and curious once you see them with somebody else and if you have a similar workplace, avoid bumping into your ex in social settings. And in case you do, do not start the conversation and adopt the rule of not speaking first. All of these things will eventually help you to unlove them.
Distract yourself
It is a no-brainer that we keep thinking about our ex after a breakup. But if you are occupied with these thoughts 24/7, higher are the chances that you will not be able to unlove them. And this can also lead to several mental disorders. It is very important to understand that you have a love for a lot of people, which includes your friends, family, hobby, pets, etc. So, in order to unlove your ex, it is very important to distract yourself so that you do not think about them, as the more you think about them, the harder it becomes to unlove them. Spend time with friends and family, join a course, go to travel alone, and do anything that keeps you occupied 24/7. This is the best way to move on and unlove someone.
Start seeing someone new
Now that you have accepted the fact that you and your partner are not together anymore and tried every way to unlove them and you have finally fallen out of love. It is very important to start seeing someone new. Start finding a partner in real life, ask your friends to introduce you to someone new, or make an account on a dating app. But do this only once you have completely unloved them. If you get along with this new person and you stop crying when you see things that remind you of your ex, congratulations! You have moved on, and you do not love them anymore.
Mentioned above are 4 tips on how to stop loving someone. Apart from these, there are a lot of other tips as well, which include self-love, meditation, exercising, sharing with friends, etc., that will help you to unlove, someone. But it is always advised to seek professional help as unloving someone is very hard, and sometimes an individual is depressed; in such cases, it is advised to seek help from a therapist.