Did you break up with somebody recently and now are not able to get the guilt of that breakup off your chest? Are you burdening yourself with negative thoughts? Do you can’t help but cry over your breakup and blame yourself for all of that? If the answer is yes, you might need some help.
While it can be extremely difficult to get the guilt off your chest, it’s not impossible. Here we present some of the tips that could help you get the breakup guilt off your chest.
1. Have an honest conversation
If you are feeling guilty for breaking up with your partner and still don’t want to get back with them, you should go for an honest conversation with them instead of completely ghosting them. Sit and talk about why the breakup was much needed and try to be completely honest so that you are able to help them in finding closure which would also help you get the burden of the guilt off your chest.
2. Feel everything
A breakup can be quite tough and even make you vulnerable at times, but this does not mean that you have to run away from your emotions. You should allow yourself to feel every little thing no matter how hurtful it is if you want to get over it. Facing feelings head-on and not going into denial is what would help you have closure about the breakup and why it happened. You should accept every feeling of yours and not force anything on yourself.
3. Don’t forget the reason for the breakup
It’s completely normal to second guess your decision of breaking up with your partner. This usually happens when you start missing them badly and are not able to get through the day on your own. But this is the exact time when you have to remind yourself about the reason you broke up with them because what was supposed to happen has already happened and you chose to break things off with them so don’t go back now. If it was meant to be, you surely would have tried, but you didn’t, so just accept and move on instead of drowning in guilt.
4. Take responsibility
No relationship can work one way, and the same is the case with the breakup, as no breakup can happen with only one person being responsible. If you really want to let yourself off the guilt you are feeling, you need to take responsibility for your part in the breakup. This does not mean that you have to pretend that you were also at fault, but it means that you actually have to see that you played an active part in the breakup. This is something that would help you in letting go of your guilt with time.
5. Realize that you are not responsible for your partner’s happiness
You broke up because your love wasn’t enough for the relationship and now you don’t have to burden yourself with the responsibility of your partner’s happiness and emotions. They are an independent person, and that is something you need to realize. You both have to focus on your personal healing once you have decided to separate your ways.
6. Focus on the future
The breakup has happened and you can’t do anything about it now. You chose to break up and now is not the time you waste on dwelling over the past and forgetting that you have a future. Focus on your future and forgive yourself for whatever happened because at the end of the day everything happens for a reason.